Should We Have Just Eloped?

Sometimes I feel that we made the wrong decision to go forward with a somewhat full blown wedding. When we first spoke of getting married, we discussed just going to city hall to get married. We thought, let's keep it simple and then have a great party after the deed. Yet, as we began making plans, it seemed less and less plausible to have a party in which we invite all those that we wanted to invite without renting a space for the event and all that comes with it. So we went ahead and found a venue we both felt comfortable with and ultimately we were/are happy with our decision. Yet there are times when I feel that it is a mistake. It isn't a mistake for Arthur and I to get married. And it isn't a mistake for us to wish to share with those we love this symbolic ceremony of our commitment to one another and to our future. But was it a mistake to try to throw a big ole wedding? We have tried out best to keep the costs down. While we will have no florist, no limos, no crazy wedding halls, no ornate decorations, it still adds up to a sum that leaves me slightly dizzy and with a nagging feeling of fear. Should we have just tied the knot A la Sex and the City, saving what money we have (damn you Lehman Brothers) to put towards our future? Probably.

And we probably shouldn't have hired a wedding planner from Platinum Weddings. Oh, well...